Sunday, November 28, 2010

Holiday Fun for Genealogists

Well, I have always known that I would write this blog post.  It has taken all of my willpower to save it for the holiday season where it rightly belongs.

Please note that the photo below is from left to right:  Gloria Kennelly (my mother), Mary McDonnell Kennelly (her grandmother), Berenice Moldt Kennelly (my grandmother).  I am including it because it is a wonderful photo, and I don't have any good Christmas photos of my mother later in her life.  Those that I could find, I can't bring myself to post for she would surely haunt me if I did.

During the holidays it is not unusual for families to laugh, reminisce, and share stories about past family times.  It usually starts "Remember when . . ." and ends with a smile and a warm family feeling in your heart.  Occasionally, accompanied by a smile or chuckle.  At our house, we usually began the litany of memories with "Remember that d*&#  pan of mother's?"  Except for sweets, our mother did not particularly enjoy cooking. While she loved new sheets and towels and had a whole room for her sewing equipment and crap craft supplies,  her pots and pans were gathered together from who knows where and never replaced.  We had knives that were dull, mismatched plates, rubber spatulas with handles that fell out, and cake pans that must have been passed down from gr-grandma.  Then there was THE PAN.  It was cast aluminum with an exterior darkened from centuries years of burnt oil, but the standout feature was the handle.  It had a wood handle with a long screw through the center.  The screw was fastened securely to the pan, but the wood handle had long ago worn larger in the middle.  This meant that the pan would swing and spin as you held the handle.  We begged our mother to throw it out every time we had to use it, and the contents would spill as the pan would sway and swing when we lifted it.  Mother was particularly fond of boiling macaroni  in this pan.  Pouring off the water was an exercise in frustration accompanied by loud swearing.  I told her that if she didn't throw it out, I would put it in the casket with her. . . . . and I tried to.  Little did I know that my brother retrieved it, sandblasted the oil off and wrapped it in Christmas paper for the following holiday.  Years have passed, and I don't remember what was in the pan that first Christmas. Since then it has been a planter, a clock, etc. Each year we pass it back and forth and talk about that D*&# pan and about our mother.

Last year it was my turn.  I never had any really inventive ideas.  Dahl, my brother, was the more creative one.  But last year was different.  He will have a hard time topping this. As I have said in an earlier post, my brother is the original genealogist in the family, but since I have joined him in this wonderful adventure, I have dragged him with me to various cemeteries in Chicago and Iowa.  I teased him about needing a "gravedigger" tee shirt since our adventure at Calvary cemetery pictured at right.  Privately, I had a brainstorm for THE PAN.  I filled it with dirt, covered the top with moss from Hobby Lobby, and painted small wood shapes to resemble tombstones.  A package of dollhouse scale flowerpots completed the look.  I decided to make him a "portable cemetery"!   It would be a representation of our past adventures searching for our ancestors.

And now to share it with you.

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I included a tombstone for our g-g grandfather James Bush Allen because I was sure we would find it when we went to the cemetery - we didn't.  So I guess this is the only one he will ever have.  There is also a tombstone for g-g-g grandmother Anna Lyman, mother of James B. Allen who is buried in Canada, g-g-grandparents, Owen &; Bridget McDonnell, and our gr. grandparents Edward P. and Mary Kennelly.  Lastly, I put a headstone for Margel Kennelly and partially covered it with moss since we had dug up the original.  It was beautiful!!


My brother loved it ,and it has decorated the shelf above his computer for the past year.  It will be sad to see it go.  But, I wonder what he has in store for me??

Maybe you have a special object from a loved one who is no longer here.  I challenge you to think about the possibility of starting a similar tradition of your own. What wonderful fun to pass it around the family and laugh about times past and the family who came before us.

14 comments:

  1. Oh Margel, that is just great fun! And what wonderful memories you and your brother are creating!

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  2. after reading this I went straight to kitchen and tossed out what I'm sure was the twin to your mothers pot. What a wonderful post Margel, I'm so glad you shared it with us.

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  3. Margel, my mother had the exact pot long gone and now morned. What a brilliant idea! Can't wait to see what Dahl come up with this year!!!

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  4. Very cute, Margel! BTW, last I checked, you can get t-shirts from Find A Grave. I bought one for my husband and my daughter a couple years ago.

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  5. Thanks for the information. I was going to get a t-shirt last year, but by the time I found one, it was too late to order. This year, I might get my act together early.

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  6. I loved your story, just hysterical! I can see why it was so hard to save for the holiday season. It must have been just bursting to get written. Thank you for sharing.

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  7. I LOVE this post. I wanted you to know that I've enjoyed your blog enormously and have shared the Ancestor Approved award with you. Thanks for such great reads! http://nolichuckyroots.blogspot.com/2010/12/blogging-heaven-carnivals-calendars-and.html

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  8. That is so funny, Margel - and very inventive. I've recently given my brother our Dad's old valve radio. Dad was a heavy sleeper so he had the radio on a timer to use as an "alarm clock". As the valves warmed up, the radio got louder and louder until the whole house was awake :-) Jo

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  9. Oh, that sounds like the start of a blog post!! Very funny.

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  10. Your mom and grands are fabulous-looking ladies. And what a fun post. When I finally saw the pot you were talking about, I recognized it immediately. My mother had its sister! (Minus the loose handle.) Thanks for sharing your miniature graveyard. What fun!

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  11. I couldn't stop laughing, it is a bit unusual, but a very creative way to use an old pan. Do let us know what your brother does with it. Many thanks.

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  12. Marget, this is a great story - we have so many ancestors in Australia who are buried in unmarked graves. It has made me think that we can possibly rectify the problem. What a lovely idea!

    I also spotted the name Kennelly in your pot! My paternal grandmother was Ellen Maria Kennelly (or Keneally, or Kenelley, etc.), parents of William Kennelly from Killea in County Tipperary and Margaret Butler of County Clare in Ireland. I wonder if our Kennellys are related somehow? Do these ring any bells for you?

    Regards,

    -Maria (mariaseddon@gmail.com)

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  13. Sorry, as far as the research that I have done, my Kennelly's (spelled four million ways) are from County Kerry and indications are Listowel. I need to do a lot more research on that line because I don't have anything before 1870 on my Kennellys.

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